How do I work
I want to give everyone the chance to experience the same freedom that I found. My wish is that everyone can feel honored, seen and listened to their sexuality.
The passion and dedication to my work pushes me to continue working on myself. This is a delicate, important job and I take the responsibility it entails seriously. Adopting appropriate ethical limits and being transparent with clients on these boundaries is critical for me.
Being aware of the power dynamics, ethics and consent is for me a constantly evolving practice.
My work is trauma informed and awareness of the limits of what I can offer and/or not is mandatory.
The most important attention during my work will be to respect the person you are and deeply honor your body, whatever the gender or shape. Together we can explore the erotic language of your body, the interaction between deep relaxation and excitement.
I will support you in discovering what you will need to feel safe enough to have more confidence in your intuition and discover your strengths and inner resources. I will welcome with infinite compassion your “blocks”, the trauma and shame that will have brought you to me. Each of us is born with the ability to receive pleasure, access and cultivate our erotic energy.
Through the body we will transform unconscious models into new learned behaviors.
Your body knows what it needs, and you can both learn to listen to what it requires, and choose what is best to satisfy your deepest desires. Starting exactly where you are, with your attention and integrity, you can discover your most authentic, delicious, wise and fully alive being. All attitudes, decisions and activities will be oriented only to your health and well-being.
My approach is based on the belief that we are not separated from our environment and takes into account how society and oppressive systems have an impact on our lived experience.
I acknowledge that I benefit from the unearned privilege afforded to me for being white, middle-class and able-bodied woman. A lot of my work both personally and professionally is in challenging myself to cofront these realities and to contribute to a paradigm shift so that all people, regardless of race, ethnicity, gender, body size, age, class, sexual orientation, can experience liberation from oppression.
I make myself available to receive any feedback on how I can continue to do better anywhere in my work and I am completely open to being corrected and called in.
I am constantly under professional supervision.
Although much of the work I do is focused on sexuality, intimacy, eroticism, desire, pleasure and human connection, I do not engage in sexual or romantic relationships with past or current clients or students or participants in my courses.
Although my interest and curiosity about sexuality and all its forms have always been an integral part of my life I would hardly have imagined that it could become my profession.
My path to increased body awareness began about ten years ago. After the birth of my children I began to perceive a strong change in myself. Pregnancy and changes in my body after childbirth have put a strain on my already very low self-esteem. I was afraid of not being more attractive to my husband and I wanted at all costs to find a way to get back to the center of his attention. I thought I’d do it by deepening my knowledge of sexuality.
I have always been curious about different approaches in sexuality, my first book on Tantra I bought it just 18 years old, but this time I wanted to deepen this knowledge in a less “housewife manner”.
I chose to learn the Tantra massage. It was a first step towards a decisive and unexpected change. The initial intention to attract the attention of my husband has turned into something more profound and personal.
As in every path of life, there are no shortcuts or roads without obstacles. Working with the body and sexuality can trigger hidden problems. My unsolved and neglected traumatic experiences of the past have begun to emerge on the surface. I began to understand the transformative power of a conscious and attentive touch.
So I started looking for an approach that would allow me to include in my professional and personal growth not only the touch but also the deeper teachings on intimacy and sexuality.
SB was the natural landing, a new revolution in my life!
I discovered a conscious, authentic, confident and embodied sexuality. I learned to take responsibility for my pleasure and to ask what I want without shame. I finally realized that my pleasure and my sexuality do not depend on my partner’s abilities. I learned to honor and communicate my boundaries. Understanding the meaning of this word would have spared me many painful experiences. I love my body as it is and I always wonder how it can surprise me with completely new sensations every day.
Understanding the dynamics of pleasure and trauma in the body still remains a personal curiosity and a professional necessity. I keep studying both, because there’s always something new to discover. It’s a university for life.
I continue to grow as a person and as a professional, making choices that are not always simple, but this is exactly what I teach and in which I want to support you. Understand that we have a choice.
- Certification in Sexological Bodywork (EASE – European Academy of Somatic Education)
- Post graduate – Advanced training (Institute for the Study of Somatic Sexology)
- Movement for trauma level I and II (Jane Clapp)
- Rebloom coach training -Rachael Maddox – in progress
- Embodied Counselling (Institute of Somatic Sexology)
- Trauma Training for bodywork professionals (Sea School of Embodiment-Caffyn Jesse, Katie Sarra)
- Going to the heart of sexual trauma / Somatic Experiencing – Ariel Giarretto (MS, LMFT, SEP)
- Energetics of Intimacy and Attachment (Ariel Giarretto, MS, LMFT, SEP)
- Working in the Expanded triadic model for touch professionals training
(Institute for Mind body therapy)
- Like a Pro training – The Wheel of consent (Betty Martin, Robyn Dalzen, Matthias Schwenteck)
- Female Pelvic Floor Training (Isa Herrera, MSPT, CSCS)
- Kinky Mind training
- Kink claiming trauma training
- BDSM training
- Others related to sexuality, intimacy, somatic approach, trauma.
Since 2012 I have opened my practice that continues to evolve. Every year I add one or more trainings to my curriculum to deepen my knowledge of sexuality, intimacy, trauma, attachment and somatic approaches.
In 2015 I became the first Certified Sexological bodyworker in Italy.
In 2017 I was asked to create a course for psychologists and psychotherapists as a deepening of the topics relating to sexuality.
In 2018, me and my collegue which is also psychotherapist decided to create a series of workshops called “Orienting towards pleasure” to help women heal from their traumatic experiences. Also in 2018 I became a member of the “Lovegiver“, nonprofit organization, which is introducing sexual care for disabled people in Italy.
I am also a contributor to the Sexual Health Project for People with Spinal Injury Love&Life promoted by the Unipolar Spinal Unit of the Hospital of Perugia and University of Perugia.
My experience has also led me to deepen the application of some aspects of BDSM in the work with trauma.